Over the years my friends have told me that their wedding day went by faster than you could possibly imagine. I heard them, but it wasn’t until my own wedding, that I fully understood what they meant.
From the moment our beloved friends and family began arriving in this miraculous unending flow, I could already feel the specific indescribable joy slipping away. I wished I had a few dozen of myself to run around and take it all in, to reminisce about childhood with every cousin, to introduce my old friends to my wife’s old friends, to squeeze all the shoulders, to share all the laughter. Luckily we hired a fantastic photographer, so we will have beautiful prints and albums to supplement our memories for the rest of our lives.
As a photographer I am primarily a storyteller (I also write fiction.) Weddings are epic stories, usually squeezed into the space of a single day. As I photograph a wedding, I look for all the distinct stories that are unfolding, and I aspire to make images that will recall them.
My work ethic is strong, and also, I just love making emotional, dynamic photographs, so I pretty much work nonstop from the moment I arrive at a wedding.
For a single day your fiery grandma will break bread with your freshman year roommate. Your best friend from elementary school very well may fall in love with your partner’s cousin. These things matter, so I make it my job to document these moments. One of my goals is to make a meaningful photograph of every guest.
There are photographers who set up the standard moments, and do little else. I tend to think the in-between moments are just as important. I like to be in all the places you didn’t have time to be, to observe all the people and events you didn’t have time to observe, and to document them for you.
There are also photographers who chase the couple around all day long. As a result, there are guests who aren’t photographed even once. These wedding guests are the most important people in your life. Many of them will travel from great distances to show their love and commitment to you, and to the partnership you are entering into. When times get tough, it is these people who will support you in the long years of your marriage.
So, yes, I tell stories about weddings, but not just any old story, I try to tell a gorgeous story that honors the vision the couple has for their union and its celebration.
In order to tell a story that honors a couple’s vision, I need to communicate very well. I ask questions and I listen closely, so that I can understand what matters most to my clients.
In the end you will have your prints and your albums. Your photographs will remind you why you spent all those hours planning. They will remind you of all the help and warmth and support your family and friends brought to the occasion. They will remind you that an overwhelming number of people care about you, and it isn’t just that they care about you, they care about your love and your partnership.