San Francisco Conservatory of Flowers Marriage Proposal Kyle & Dani

Kyle proposed to Dani at the San Francisco Conservatory of Flowers on a sunny Saturday morning in July. I made a visit to the Conservatory of Flowers a week beforehand to scout, and come up with a plan. From the moment Kyle hopped down on his knee, it was clear that these two were entirely on the same page about their love and the proposal. Dani jumped into the engagement without hesitation. There was some sweet debate as to whether Kyle actually asked the question, but he was undeniably down on a knee with a gorgeous ring gripped in his fingers, so anybody could tell exactly what he meant. After the marriage proposal, we headed over to a redwood grove and a tunnel with lovely light in Golden Gate Park for an engagement session. Dani has studied dance over the years, so she was an absolute natural in front of the camera. Both of them brought their giddy excitement about the proposal to the photos.

How much does wedding photography cost in the San Francisco Bay Area?

Here are some of the things that helped me to think through hiring my own wedding photographer…

Wedding photography is a luxury, but so is almost everything about a wedding. The weird thing about the photography is that it lasts longer than the dress, steak, wine, cake, music, etc. etc. Eventually, what the photographer saw can overtake other memories. So weird! Anyway. It is important!

One way to think about it is that you are commissioning an artist to make a body of work about you, your love, your family, and your friends. For many people this is one of the only times in their lives they will commission an artist to make work for them.

Wedding photography cost varies by market. I might have expensive taste, but one woman I talked to quoted me 10k for her bare bones package. WTF?! That is over the top. Up to 6k seems within reason in more expensive cities. Anything under 3k, you are working with someone who is either, in a market with very very cheap living expenses, is an unrealistic business person, is a bad photographer, is just starting out, or some combination of these things.

Important questions to consider when hiring a photographer:

Do we trust this person? Is this person actually the photographer who will come on our wedding day? Are they easy to be around? Will they take their commitment to the work seriously? Will they understand what is important to us about our wedding, or do they have their own ideas that they will try to impose? Will this person get along with our guests? What final product are we getting? Do we get all of the high resolution files or do we have to pay for each and every print? Do we want to order prints ourselves? Do we want a professionally produced album? Would we ever get around to making an album ourselves?

What sort of style does this photographer have? Will they capture us in natural joyful expressions? Are they too focused on making an interesting picture? Are they creative enough with their compositions? Do they take too many pictures of the cake, dress, jewelry, centerpieces? (There is a whole genre that is beholden to blogs like Style Me Pretty. This genre includes a strange amount of product photography along with the traditional coverage.)

So, there’s my two cents.

Also, my cheeky article on why you don’t need a wedding photographer: https://hazelphoto.com/why-you-dont-need-wedding-photographer/

Ashokan Center Wedding – Zoe & David

Not everyone is quite as lucky as Zoe & David, nonetheless we can still bask in the glory that is their love and their wedding. These two were married on a bright and beautiful day in early July at the Ashokan Center in Olivebridge, New York. The Ashokan Center is an environmental education and retreat center tucked into the backroads near the Ashokan Reservoir.

(Sidenote: Back in Brooklyn, David an Zoe, and their neighbors throughout New York City, drink water from the Ashokan Reservoir. NYC’s water is supposedly the reason for the burg’s incomparable bagels.)

Sometimes the choice of a wedding venue couldn’t be more obvious. Of course Zoe & David’s would host their wedding at the Ashokan Center, where they fell in love under the stars, over banjos and fiddles.

This was my favorite variety of wedding where you say yes to the traditions that make you feel good, and the traditions you’re less fond of? they disappear.

Dog looking at wedding cake with desire. Documentary Wedding Photography Hazel Photo Bay Area

“Documentary wedding photography” 7 reasons why this is what you really want.

The Work · The Philosophy

Seven Reasons You Need a
Documentary Wedding Photographer

Not every couple does. But if any of the following sound like you, you probably do.

By Paul Gargagliano · Hazel Photo · Bay Area

Documentary wedding photograph — Hazel Photo

Cavallo Point · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

The pictures you remember longest aren’t the posed ones. They’re the ones that put you back in the room — the noise, the feeling, the specific quality of the light at 7pm. That’s what documentary wedding photography is actually after.

1Reason One

You want to feel your wedding, not just see it.

Not a record of what happened. A record of what it was like. Years after the fact, the images that stay are the ones that make you feel the room again.

Stanly Ranch, Napa Valley

Carneros Resort, Napa

Documentary wedding photography on film — Hazel Photo

San Francisco, CA

Indian wedding recessional, Bay Area — Hazel Photo

Leal Vineyards, Hollister, CA

2Reason Two

You have people worth photographing.

Your best friend doing the worm. Your mom teasing her sister. Your dad hugging you with tears in his eyes. Your niece with that look like she’s quietly plotting world takeover.

A documentary photographer is there when the moment happens.

These moments exist at every wedding. A documentary photographer is there when they happen, not somewhere else setting up a shot of the centerpieces.

Wedding photograph on film — Hazel Photo

Stinson Beach · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

3Reason Three

You’d like someone with an actual eye, not just a camera.

There’s a difference between photographing a wedding and seeing one. The meaningful gesture half-hidden behind a guest. The expression that lasts a fraction of a second. The frame within the frame that makes an ordinary moment look inevitable.

These aren’t things you can direct. They’re things you learn to recognize after years of paying very close attention.

Documentary wedding photography — Hazel Photo

Santa Cruz Mountains · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Jewish wedding, Conservatory of Flowers — Hazel Photo

Conservatory of Flowers · SF

Grand entrance, wedding reception — Hazel Photo

Carneros Resort · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

California · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Portra · Urban Adamah · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

4Reason Four

You don’t want a second first look.

Hold on — how would that even work? A first look, by definition, happens once. The fact that some photographers schedule a do-over tells you something important about their relationship to authenticity.

A first look, by definition, happens once.

Documentary wedding photographers don’t restage. They wait. The patience required to wait for the real thing — rather than manufacture a version of it — is the same patience that produces the images you’ll still be looking at in twenty years.

Wedding recessional, University Club of San Francisco — Hazel Photo

University Club · Santa Cruz Mountains · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Chinese wedding, Silicon Valley — Hazel Photo

Silicon Valley · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

5Reason Five

You want pictures that actually look like you.

Some wedding photography doesn’t see the couple — it sees a generic idea of romance and drops two people into it. You spent a year planning an event that reflects who you actually are. The photographs should be able to tell.

A documentary photographer pays attention to the specific, not the stock.

Wedding photography on film — Hazel Photo

Healdsburg · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Santa Rosa · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Wedding recessional, Beltane Ranch — Hazel Photo

Beltane Ranch, Sonoma Valley, CA · Hazel Photo

Presidio · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Sonoma Valley · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Aptos, CA · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

6Reason Six

You’d like your wedding to feel like a wedding.

Not a production. Not a photoshoot that happens to have guests. When a photographer takes over — three cameras, constant direction, blocking the aisle for angles — the event stops being the event and becomes the backdrop for someone else’s portfolio.

Let the day be exactly what it is.

Documentary wedding photography runs the other direction: be present, don’t interfere, let the day be what it is.

Wine Country · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

The Presidio · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Muir Beach, documentary wedding — Hazel Photo

Muir Beach · Marin, CA · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Stinson Beach · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

7Reason Seven

You chose your florals for a reason.

The color of your dress. The specific peach of the ranunculus. The warm late-afternoon light you planned around. Heavy post-processing can erase all of it — desaturated to the point of gray, color-graded into someone else’s signature look, retouched into something closer to illustration than photography.

Documentary processing starts from a different premise: faithfully reproduce what was actually there. The colors you chose deserve to survive the edit.

Nestldown · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

From the archive

Film work · Bay Area

The Presidio · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Santa Rosa · Hazel Photo

Bay Area · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Santa Cruz Mountains · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

The Pearl SF · Paul Gargagliano — Hazel Photo

Hazel Photo · Paul Gargagliano · Bay Area

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Berkeley Hills Engagement Photos

E and B were willing to meet me early in the morning at Wildcat Canyon for a hike and engagement photo session. I think of this as the Berkeley Hills, even though it’s a teensy bit North of Berkeley. This set is a sunrise engagement session! My absolute favorite. We met early in the morning, and used the delicious soft light coming through the grass, rolling over the hills, emanating from the city below, for our glory. While sunset engagement sessions are also lovely and ubiquitous, they generally involve lots of other people in the scene to avoid. We had a particularly quiet morning, and for much of our hike, there was nobody else in eyesight. The part of the hike up on the ridge line next to the forest was special, lush and new. It was January here in the Bay Area, the rainy season, but we got lucky and had a clear, sunny morning. The rain brought out the green grass and the mushrooms.

Bay Area Documentary Wedding Photographer Hazelphoto

Moments that matter – a year in weddings

Here we have a year of weddings as seen through “moments.”

2018 brought a lovely diversity of venues throughout the Bay Area and beyond, including the Sierra Mountains, Big-Sur, The Boston T and the Boston Public Library, Art Museums, Tiny Chapels and Massive Urban High Schools, Small High Schools and Redwood Theaters, a Mansion that once belonged to a general…

I feel overwhelming gratefulness for all the joy and ritual that I experienced through a camera lens this past year.

But why “moments”? Because they draw us in through their storytelling power. They make us feel what exists on either side of them. They don’t just show a gorgeous dress. They show a woman in a gorgeous dress flushed with joy as she dances with her father. Her gesture shows the freedom and the fun she has shared with him. They don’t just show a marriage license sitting upon a table. They show a group hug between a bride, a groom, her sister, his brother, and the closest of friends, the marriage license gripped between the groom’s fingers.

A photograph is time frozen. Sure, etymologically speaking, it is a light-drawing…but maybe we should have called it a nontempograph… because it’s conceptual implications are: it takes something that exists in the spatiotemporal world, and strips it of time, leaving it to a solely spatial existence. It is of time and yet out of time. A spatial representation of time at a standstill.

And in it’s spatial existence, it can only hint at temporality. It is those photographs that gesture grandly toward temporality that move me most.

Here’s to a 2019 of making wedding photographs that gesture grandly toward temporality.